Should i let my partner go on a guys trip?

Our 5-month-old is super fussy, and I’m exhausted. Now, my partner wants to go on a cabin weekend with friends. I’m torn between guilt and needing support.

We have a baby girl who’s just hit 5 months, and while she’s healthy and sleeps through the night (thankfully!), she’s been incredibly demanding during the day. Lots of crying, tough to settle, and naps are a constant struggle. I’m really worn out, both mentally and physically, and I’ll admit I haven’t felt like myself lately.

Now my partner wants to go on a weekend trip with his friends to a cabin they’ve been planning for a while. He’s turned down a bunch of invites since our daughter was born, so I know he’s trying to be supportive. But he has already gone on one guys’ trip a couple of months ago, so this wouldn’t be the first time.

I’ve got a close friend who’s offered to come stay with me for the weekend and help out, which I really appreciate. She’s great with kids and I know I won’t be completely alone. But I can’t help feeling like it’s just not the same. It’s easier when he’s here, and emotionally I feel more grounded when we’re handling the hard parts together.

I don’t want to be unfair or clingy—I know he deserves a break too. But I’m also feeling like I need a break, and I’m not getting one anytime soon. I think I’m struggling more than I want to admit, and I’m scared I’ll feel even more overwhelmed without him around.

Would you let your partner go? Or is it okay to say, “Not this time”? I don’t want to start a fight over it, but I’m not sure how to balance being supportive of his needs while still acknowledging my own.