Is it unfair to dock her allowance for mess?

She’s a great kid overall, but I’m so tired of picking up her dirty dishes—now we’re arguing over whether docking her allowance is going too far.

We have a 14-year-old daughter who’s usually pretty responsible. She does well in school, gets glowing feedback from teachers, and even works a couple hours a week coaching younger kids in a sport she’s really good at. She’s polite with other adults, helpful when she babysits her younger brother, and not someone who causes trouble outside the house.

At home, though, she’s a typical teenager. She pushes back on rules and instructions, and we’ve had the usual back-and-forths. Nothing major, but definitely more attitude than we were used to when she was younger.

She gets a weekly allowance, and part of that includes a few regular chores: cooking dinner one day a week (including setting the table and cleaning up afterward), watching her younger brother one afternoon after school, and cleaning her room every Friday. She does all of this pretty consistently.

But here’s the issue—she never picks up after herself the rest of the week. There are glasses, plates, and random snack wrappers left all over the house and especially her room. We’ve reminded her again and again, and it all just sits there until her cleaning day. It drives me crazy, especially because she knows better. She’s fully capable of clearing her own dishes like the rest of us.

So I finally said, enough. I told her that from now on, I’m docking $1 from her allowance every time I have to clean up after her. She didn’t like it, and my husband thinks it’s unfair since she’s already doing her “chore list” and this wasn’t part of the original deal. He feels there should be a different consequence, but he hasn’t suggested any good alternatives—and now our daughter is using his opinion as backup and pushing back even more.

To me, this seems like a natural consequence. She’s been warned plenty of times, and I’m tired of nagging. If she doesn’t want to lose money, she can put her dishes in the sink like the rest of us. But now I feel like the bad guy and it's turning into a bigger argument than I expected.

Am I being too harsh? What would you do in this situation?