How to handle a toxic sibling

My sister always finds a way to cause drama—family events, holidays, group chats. It’s like she needs someone to fight with.

She twists stories, plays the victim, and pulls people into her mess. For years, I tried being the peacemaker. I’d smooth things over, apologize for stuff I didn’t do, and tell myself “that’s just how she is.”

But it got to the point where I dreaded seeing her. I stopped enjoying birthdays, holidays, everything. I finally stopped engaging. No more responding to bait. No more defending myself to people who already picked sides.

Guess what? Less stress. More clarity. You can’t change someone who thrives on chaos, but you can stop dancing to their tune.