Early tantrums: will it ever get better?

Our child has been having tantrums since turning two in August. We’ve been in regular contact with the daycare and health services to get tools for managing the overwhelming meltdowns that occur regularly. Honestly, we’re feeling exhausted. Every day feels like a battle—whether it’s about diaper changes, getting dressed, eating, or dealing with things he can’t do.

No matter how consistent we are with setting boundaries, it doesn’t seem to have much effect. We’ve read countless parenting guides, put a lot of effort into validating his emotions, and maintained firm limits on things he doesn’t get to decide.

People keep saying, “Just wait until he’s three; then the tantrums will really start.” But we’ve already been living in tantrum-land for six months, and I can’t imagine how it could possibly get worse.

For those of you whose kids started showing defiance early, did it go on for years? 😨

And before anyone jumps in about the term “tantrum,” I’m aware that some people don’t like it. But since both the daycare lead and our health nurse call it that, I’m sticking to the term here. 😊